13 Reasons You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be

Feeling down about your small business these days? Is the broken economy hurting your sales and keeping you up at night? Need some motivation and tough love to help you stop pitying yourself? Well, here you go: 13 reasons you might have in your head about why you’re not as successful as you should be.

#1 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Laziness

I don’t think there’s an easy way to put this. I have to assume that you’re lazy. Every single successful person works their butts off to get where they are. It’s ok to be lazy. Just admit it. But don’t whine about not being rich and successful, ok?

#2 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Entitlement

Only a few people in the world are part of the lucky sperm club. You and me? We gotta work to get what we want. Quit thinking you are owed something. You’re not. Get to work.

#3 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Fear

You are afraid, plain and simple. Afraid of looking silly. Afraid of what your friends and family will say. Afraid of everything. Look, you’re either going to stop being afraid, or you’re not. Nobody can convince you to stop. Imagine though… what awaits you when you stop with the fear excuses?

#4 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Negativity

You may not realize it, but the people you associate with might be negative [orifices]. They could be soul-sucking beings who don’t want anyone to be successful. Get rid of them, now! Surround yourself with successful people. People you want to be like.

#5 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Stop Thinking

How much do you want to bet you have paralysis by analysis? You think way too much about what you could or should do. Doers get what they want, and everyone else gets what they get. Stop analyzing and start doing.

#6 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – No Goals

You plan nothing. You believe that someway, somehow, everything you always wanted will just magically happen. So you “play it by ear” and wait. You need goals to shoot for. Otherwise, you’re just treading water.

#7 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – “They”

There’s no “they”. There’s no secret group of people that controls your success or failure. You’ve made that up to make you feel better about yourself. The truth is you, and you alone, control your success in life/business/everything. It’s easy to blame “them” though, isn’t it? Weak.

#8 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – No “X” Factor

You can’t do it because you’re not pretty enough. Or don’t have a strong personality? You don’t have the “X” factor? Wow, what an unbelievably lame excuse. The truth is even jerks, idiots and boring people can be just as successful as anyone else. Your problem is you don’t believe it yet.

#9 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Time Waste

You’re a classic time-waster. You spend hours and hours every day working on not-working. You do things that aren’t productive. How are you ever going to get anything done, or reach any goal if you keep wasting time? You’re not. So you might as well give up now if you’re going to keep this path.

#10 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Social B.S.

You spend way too much time in social media land.  You waste probably about 50% of your productive hours of the day doing this. The sad part is, you know it, but you can’t stop. So you can’t get anything done that matters.

#11 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Think Small

You think way too small. You are constantly looking only a day or a week ahead instead of years ahead. Because of this, you never get anywhere, and you never lead; you always follow.

#12 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Don’t Want It

You don’t really want to be successful. Sure, you like to dream about it like everyone else. But in your heart you are afraid of what might happen if you really get it. That’s B.S. fear your brain is feeding you. Success is change, and it feels really, really good. Tell your brain to shut the [foolishness] up.

#13 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Don’t Believe

You never believed that it’s possible. Society taught you that only a few “exceptional” people get what they want. Everyone else should just settle. If you really want to believe that, go ahead. The rest of us will be at the front of the line because we believe.

A blog Post by Singapore’s Youngest Millionaire

Some of you may already know that I travel around the region pretty frequently, having to visit and conduct seminars at my offices in Malaysia, Indonesia, Thailand and Suzhou (China). I am in the airport almost every other week so I get to bump into many people who have attended my seminars or have read my books.

Recently, someone came up to me on a plane to KL and looked rather shocked. He asked, ‘How come a millionaire like you is traveling economy?’ My reply was, ‘That’s why I am a millionaire. ‘He still looked pretty confused. This again confirms that greatest lie ever told about wealth
(Which I wrote about in my latest book ‘Secrets of Self-Made Millionaires’). Many people have been brainwashed to think that millionaires have to wear Gucci, Hugo Boss, Rolex, and sit on first class in air travel. This is why so many people never become rich because the moment that earn more money, they think that it is only natural that they spend more, putting them back to square one.

The truth is that most self-made millionaires are frugal and only spend on what is necessary and of value. That is why they are able to accumulate and multiplies their wealth so much faster. Over the last 7 years, I have saved about 80% of my income while today I save only about 60%
(Because I have my wife, mother in law, 2 maids, 2 kids, etc. to support). Still, it is way above most people who save 10% of their income (if they are lucky). I refuse to buy a first class ticket or to buy a $300 shirt because I think that it is a complete waste of money. However, I happily pay $1,300 to send my 2-year old daughter to Julia Gabriel Speech and Drama without thinking twice.

When I joined the YEO (Young Entrepreneur’s Organization) a few years back (YEO is an exclusive club open to those who are under 40and make over $1m a Year in their own business) I discovered that those who were self-made thought like me. Many of them with net worth’s well over $5m, traveled economy class and some even drove Toyota’s and Nissans (not Audis, Mercs, BMWs).

I noticed that it was only those who never had to work hard to build their own wealth (there were also a few ministers’ and tycoons’ sons in the club) who spent like there was no tomorrow. Somehow, when you did not have to build everything from scratch, you do not really value money. This is precisely the reason why a family’s wealth (no matter how much) rarely lasts past the third generation. Thank God my rich dad (oh no! I sound like Kiyosaki) foresaw this terrible possibility and refused to give me a cent to start my business.

Then some people ask me, ‘What is the point in making so much money if you don’t enjoy it?’ The thing is that I don’t really find happiness in buying branded clothes, jewelry or sitting first class. Even if buying something makes me happy it is only for a while, it does not last. Material happiness never lasts, it just give you a quick fix. After a while you feel lousy again and have to buy the next thing which you think will make you happy. I always think that if you need material things to make you happy, then you live a pretty sad and unfulfilled life.

Instead, what makes ME happy is when I see my children laughing and playing and learning so fast. What makes me happy is when I see my companies and trainers reaching more and more people every year in so many more countries. What makes me really happy is when I read all the emails about how my books and seminars have touched and inspired someone’s life. What makes me really happy is reading all your wonderful posts about how this
BLOG is inspiring you. This happiness makes me feel really good for a long time, much more than what a Rolex would do for me.

I think the point I want to put across is that happiness must come from doing your life’s work (be in teaching, building homes, designing, trading, winning tournaments etc.) and the money that comes is only a by-product. If you hate what you are doing and rely on the money you earn to make you happy by buying stuff, then I think that you are living a life of meaninglessness…

‘以为’ 和 ‘马虎’ 都是个致命伤。凡是都得落实,落实,再落实。越仔细,出错的可能性越低,成功的机会就越高。

Third Weekend in Seattle

I’m thankful for this opportunity to be here. Although not everyday is fun and exciting, God’s provision has far exceeded what I need. Today Rick invited us to his restaurant, Simply Thai, at Tukwila because the MTV crew were going to shoot for a reality show. Unfortunately by the time we reached, the shoot was over. Nonetheless we were offered a spread of Thai cuisine for lunch. Rick and his family spontaneously took us to Alki beach after lunch and we went kayaking in Puget Sound, an inlet of the Pacific Ocean.

Gone hiking the next day! Boarded the ferry to bainbrige island. What’s amazing was that the ferry could also hold up to 150 vehicles! It was a pretty long drive to the Olympic National Forest. We drove past the Hood Canal, one of the four main basins of the Puget Sound. Stopped by Hama Hama to grab some smoked salmon and fresh oysters for about $6 per dozen. I heard that in the oyster bars in the city, oysters are sold for $2.75 each! We stopped by Potlatch State Park for a BBQ in the wilderness. I swear it’s the most exciting BBQ I’ve ever had, and I have to say Rick’s family’s preparation work was an eye  opener. We had wine, lamb rack, steak, oysters with lemons, some dried food, sticky rice and Nittha made some signature Thai sauce right there when we were grilling the meat. Rick also brought some wood logs to chop and throw into the charcoal so that the meat will be more fragrant. His tools were just amazing. I think I must have seemed so ignorant because I took pictures of nearly everything haha.

After meal we headed to our hiking spot at Ranger Hole Trail. It’s overwhelming to be surrounded by nothing but fir trees! It’s a pity that I didn’t have comfortable shoes and the trail was a little too short. I would definitely love to do it again! On our way back, the ferry at Bainbridge was delayed for 2 hours, so we boarded the ferry at Bremeton instead. The whole day seems simple but it took us 12 whole hours. Enough time to get from Seattle to Beijing.

Lessons in Seattle

Yesterday was supposed to be my rest day but boss suddenly appeared and took me out to downtown and meet some of his potential business partners.

As he had other friends around, I sat in one of his potential partner, Rick’s car. Rick used to be a professor at University of Washington, but he is now running a seafood export and distribution business.

He told me about his plans in expanding to Singapore, and how he looks to use Singapore as a port to other countries. His company’s main products are salmon, oysters and geoducks. I’m not sure of his intention when he elaborated his plans to me, but as he spoke, I asked without much thinking, so how could I help you in any way? I think he was shocked by how direct and unpretentious I was, and he kindly replied, we could talk (:

That was a good lesson for me. For the past few days I have been struggling to initiate business conversation with my boss. I’m not sure why, maybe because he is too intimidating. The experience with Rick allowed me to see how easy it is to open my mouth. The best way to overcome any form of mental block is to do it (lesson #1).

Being an ex-professor of Tourism, he is extremely well-learnt about the city. He took us to downtown Seattle where the Public Market is. We also went to Queen Anne, Magnolia Hill, Mercer Island and Bellevue where the old and new rich stay. And I just found out that my activities haven’t really been carried out in Seattle. The place where is stayed is in Enumclaw, not within Seattle haha.

We spent the afternoon discussing the viability of opening a casino here. Only native Indians can open casinos here and Rick happened to sit on the board of advisors for the Association of Native Indians. So Rick explained to me the feasibility of the project and I had to translate everything to my boss. Rick was impressed at how I translated everything pretty fluently, and he commented that I was even better than the official translators my boss previously had. He praised me in front of my boss and said I did a well even though I didn’t come here to translate. But my boss immediately said, no I don’t think she did well. Accept harsh and unexpected criticism with grace and ponder hard over them (lesson #2).

Not everyday is exciting over here. I didn’t blog the past few days because the activities were quite dry. As he’s buying lots of houses here, I even had to help me carry his furniture on one day. Boss gave me a day off the next day because he had to oversee the renovations. I was tempted to take up his offer, but I thought about what I could do and who I could meet if I choose to stay in, and who I could possibly meet if I had just followed him and do boring stuff. I guess no matter how dry the day would be, I definitely get to go one new place, meet one new person and see something I’ve not seen before. And so I went, and I did not regret. Never ever be disheartened just because you thought there’s no big deal; opportunities come when you least expect them (lesson #3).

Also while fixing some furniture, another guy I pointed out that there was a mistake and the person in charge told us off. I was utterly pissed, but the other guy just graciously stepped back and laughed it off. I felt disappointed in myself that I was so unforgiving. I even gave the person-in-charge an evil stare. I need to learn to let things slide and understand that people have their bad days, just like I have mine (lesson #4).

Why now?

Because I hate to have achieved nothing in life. Because I need to support myself and my parents. Because I want to start a family by the age of 25, that’s 3 years time. Because I want to be able to give to the less fortunate. Because the longer I wait, the higher are the stakes.

Average Directional Index

Shows how strong a trend is and when it will reverse.

+DI: How strong the uptrend is

-DI: How weak the downtrend is

ADX doesn’t indicate if the trend is up or down, but how strong the overall strength of the underlying trend is.

ADX strongly above 40 and rising: Strong trend

ADX strongly below 20 and falling: Weak trend

Do not trade if ADX is below both + and – line.

Identify start of a new trend: ADX moves from below 20 to above 20

Signal of trend reversal: ADX trading above + / – line and starts to turn lower

DI line cross over: Long when + crossover the – (uptrend is stronger than downtrend)

Parabolic SAR

Helps to identify when to enter and exit.

Long when indicator is below price.

Short when indicator is above price.

However the indicator does not work well in ranges because there will be lots of whipsaws.