关于钱、情、性、男人、女人

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              1一个再坚强的女人都需要一个男人来看穿她的脆弱…                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        再脆弱的男人都需要一个女人来触摸他灵魂的刚强。                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                2.有性无爱是摧毁,有爱无性是折磨,有爱有性是升腾,人间当下即天堂!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        一个人没有爱的能力,比没有性的能力更可悲。                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                3.一个优秀的女人,一定想办法去驾驭一个一般女人驾驭不了的男人;                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        一个优秀的男人,一定想办法去征服一个一般男人征服不了的女人;                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                4.如果你把钱当命,你就会变成钱的奴隶;                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        如果你把钱当工具,钱就是你的奴隶;钱是降服人性的工具~                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                5.一个男人真正的荣耀不是你拥有多少女人,而是一个女人为你拒绝任何男人!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        一个女人真正的自豪,不是你的男人独守你一个,而是不管他经历过多少美女,他的心最终仍然在你那里 !                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                6.人生的不同,就是经历的不同,体验的不同;普通人写目标,高手直接体验;                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                7.人类最大的杀手就是虚伪,装!越装越假,越假越装,结果很真实的做一个假人;                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        真实不现实,现实不真实,删除一切幻像和假象,进入根本和本质,当下解脱。。。                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                8.不怕死的比怕死的真实!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        凡事主动的比被动的真实!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        快乐的比痛苦的真实!有经历阅历的比没有经历阅历的真实!活在当下的比未来过去的真实!心比脑真实!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                9.当等待和回忆出现的时候,人类已经进入了悲哀!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        你在红尘中,是历练!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        红尘中有一个你,是历练后的横空出世!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                10.一个女人最大的不幸,就是聪明的什么都懂…                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        如果身为一个女人很聪明,一定很可怜…                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        11.相爱的人就像鱼和水,在一起就是整个世界;分开便什么都不是…                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                12.文化的强大,贵在当下,我们不能总拿出我们的祖先老子孔子说话,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        我们必须推出我们当下的大师!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        强大当下文化,培训界责无旁贷!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                13.没有体验,所学一切都是苍白,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        只有自己扎扎实实体验到的,才是最真实的!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 14.人生的残废,就是做了认为自己该做的事,最后带着深深的遗憾离开世界;                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                15.人生解脱之道,从当下开始;做让自己不留下遗憾的事,交让自己不留下遗憾的朋友,经历让自己生命不留下遗憾 爱情;上不让自己留下遗憾的行动。                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                16.越是复杂的问题,答案越简单!是复杂制造了问题,是简单还原了真相!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        简单是一种能力,是一种修炼,更是一种境界!如何让生命简单爆发,进入大道。                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        当你感觉压力大的时候,就是你自己太渺小的表现;整个环境的污染,不是大气层的污染,而是整个人类压抑的心情所造成的,要拯救整个环境,唯一的方法就是让人的心灵快乐起来和幸福起来!君领天下,责无旁贷~                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                17.真理其实离我们很近,只是我们在寻找真理的过程把自己整复杂啦….                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         把简单的事弄复杂是无所事事,把复杂的事弄简单是本事!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                18.道可道,非常道!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        人生比的就是谁更接近实相,谁更能使用宇宙能量….                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                19.普通人追求幸福,高手幸福的追求,普通人追求快乐,高手快乐的追求!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                20.女人犯的最大的错,就是将男人限制死。最后还抱怨男人没出息!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 21.爱就是彼此帮助对方建立强大的自我! 多少人的婚姻史都是男女两个人的血泪史!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                22.有我无爱,爱是在没我的状态才能体验到的,就像地震时,妈妈用躯体拯救了孩子,就像泰坦尼克号杰克拯救了露西,有爱无天!此状态为宇宙状态!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                23.生命在极限时,更容易体验到精神的力量,专注于某一点不断深入强化更容易触摸灵性之光!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                24.普通人活在迷惑中,高手知道了别人所不知道的,领袖之才经历了别人没有经历的经历!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                25.经历过大性大情的人要么不开悟,一开悟就是大彻大悟! 

How to Stop Procrastinating by Using the “2-Minute Rule”

Recently, I’ve been following a simple rule that is helping me crush procrastination and making it easier for me to stick to good habits at the same time.

I want to share it with you today so that you can try it out and see how it works in your life.

The best part? It’s a simple strategy that couldn’t be easier to use.

Here’s what you need to know…

How to Stop Procrastinating With the “2–Minute Rule”

I call this little strategy the “2–Minute Rule” and the goal is to make it easier for you to get started on the things you should be doing.

Here’s the deal…

Most of the tasks that you procrastinate on aren’t actually difficult to do — you have the talent and skills to accomplish them — you just avoid starting them for one reason or another.

The 2–Minute Rule overcomes procrastination and laziness by making it so easy to start taking action that you can’t say no.

There are two parts to the 2–Minute Rule…

Part 1 — If it takes less than two minutes, then do it now.

Part I comes from David Allen’s bestselling book, Getting Things Done.

It’s surprising how many things we put off that we could get done in two minutes or less. For example, washing your dishes immediately after your meal, tossing the laundry in the washing machine, taking out the garbage, cleaning up clutter, sending that email, and so on.

If a task takes less than two minutes to complete, then follow the rule and do it right now.

Part 2 — When you start a new habit, it should take less than two minutes to do.

Can all of your goals be accomplished in less than two minutes? Obviously not.

But, every goal can be started in 2 minutes or less. And that’s the purpose behind this little rule.

It might sound like this strategy is too basic for your grand life goals, but I beg to differ. It works for any goal because of one simple reason: the physics of real life.

The Physics of Real Life

As Sir Isaac Newton taught us a long time ago, objects at rest tend to stay at rest and objects in motion tend to stay in motion. This is just as true for humans as it is for falling apples.

The 2–Minute Rule works for big goals as well as small goals because of the inertia of life. Once you start doing something, it’s easier to continue doing it. I love the 2–Minute Rule because it embraces the idea that all sorts of good things happen once you get started.

Want to become a better writer? Just write one sentence (2–Minute Rule), and you’ll often find yourself writing for an hour.

Want to eat healthier? Just eat one piece of fruit (2–Minute Rule), and you’ll often find yourself inspired to make a healthy salad as well.

Want to make reading a habit? Just read the first page of a new book (2–Minute Rule), and before you know it, the first three chapters have flown by.

Want to run three times a week? Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, just get your running shoes on and get out the door (2–Minute Rule), and you’ll end up putting mileage on your legs instead of popcorn in your stomach.

The 2–Minute Rule isn’t about the results you achieve, but rather about the process of actually doing the work. The focus is on taking action and letting things flow from there.

The most important part of any new habit is getting started — not just the first time, but each time. It’s not about performance, it’s about consistently taking action. This is especially true in the beginning because there will be plenty of time to improve your performance later on.

For more ideas on making it easier to get started and about the importance of focusing on the process and not the result, read this article and this one.

Try It Now

I can’t guarantee whether or not the 2–Minute Rule will work for you. But, I can guarantee that it will never work if you never try it.

The problem with most articles you read, podcasts you listen to, or videos you watch is that you consume the information but never put it into practice.

I want this article to be different. I want you to actually use this information, right now.

What’s something you can do that will take you less than two minutes? Do it right now.

Anyone can spare the next 120 seconds. Use this time to get one thing done. Go.

A blog Post by Singapore’s Youngest Millionaire

Some of you may already know that I travel around the region pretty frequently, having to visit and conduct seminars at my offices in Malaysia, Indonesia, Thailand and Suzhou (China). I am in the airport almost every other week so I get to bump into many people who have attended my seminars or have read my books.

Recently, someone came up to me on a plane to KL and looked rather shocked. He asked, ‘How come a millionaire like you is traveling economy?’ My reply was, ‘That’s why I am a millionaire. ‘He still looked pretty confused. This again confirms that greatest lie ever told about wealth
(Which I wrote about in my latest book ‘Secrets of Self-Made Millionaires’). Many people have been brainwashed to think that millionaires have to wear Gucci, Hugo Boss, Rolex, and sit on first class in air travel. This is why so many people never become rich because the moment that earn more money, they think that it is only natural that they spend more, putting them back to square one.

The truth is that most self-made millionaires are frugal and only spend on what is necessary and of value. That is why they are able to accumulate and multiplies their wealth so much faster. Over the last 7 years, I have saved about 80% of my income while today I save only about 60%
(Because I have my wife, mother in law, 2 maids, 2 kids, etc. to support). Still, it is way above most people who save 10% of their income (if they are lucky). I refuse to buy a first class ticket or to buy a $300 shirt because I think that it is a complete waste of money. However, I happily pay $1,300 to send my 2-year old daughter to Julia Gabriel Speech and Drama without thinking twice.

When I joined the YEO (Young Entrepreneur’s Organization) a few years back (YEO is an exclusive club open to those who are under 40and make over $1m a Year in their own business) I discovered that those who were self-made thought like me. Many of them with net worth’s well over $5m, traveled economy class and some even drove Toyota’s and Nissans (not Audis, Mercs, BMWs).

I noticed that it was only those who never had to work hard to build their own wealth (there were also a few ministers’ and tycoons’ sons in the club) who spent like there was no tomorrow. Somehow, when you did not have to build everything from scratch, you do not really value money. This is precisely the reason why a family’s wealth (no matter how much) rarely lasts past the third generation. Thank God my rich dad (oh no! I sound like Kiyosaki) foresaw this terrible possibility and refused to give me a cent to start my business.

Then some people ask me, ‘What is the point in making so much money if you don’t enjoy it?’ The thing is that I don’t really find happiness in buying branded clothes, jewelry or sitting first class. Even if buying something makes me happy it is only for a while, it does not last. Material happiness never lasts, it just give you a quick fix. After a while you feel lousy again and have to buy the next thing which you think will make you happy. I always think that if you need material things to make you happy, then you live a pretty sad and unfulfilled life.

Instead, what makes ME happy is when I see my children laughing and playing and learning so fast. What makes me happy is when I see my companies and trainers reaching more and more people every year in so many more countries. What makes me really happy is when I read all the emails about how my books and seminars have touched and inspired someone’s life. What makes me really happy is reading all your wonderful posts about how this
BLOG is inspiring you. This happiness makes me feel really good for a long time, much more than what a Rolex would do for me.

I think the point I want to put across is that happiness must come from doing your life’s work (be in teaching, building homes, designing, trading, winning tournaments etc.) and the money that comes is only a by-product. If you hate what you are doing and rely on the money you earn to make you happy by buying stuff, then I think that you are living a life of meaninglessness…

‘以为’ 和 ‘马虎’ 都是个致命伤。凡是都得落实,落实,再落实。越仔细,出错的可能性越低,成功的机会就越高。

Lessons in Seattle

Yesterday was supposed to be my rest day but boss suddenly appeared and took me out to downtown and meet some of his potential business partners.

As he had other friends around, I sat in one of his potential partner, Rick’s car. Rick used to be a professor at University of Washington, but he is now running a seafood export and distribution business.

He told me about his plans in expanding to Singapore, and how he looks to use Singapore as a port to other countries. His company’s main products are salmon, oysters and geoducks. I’m not sure of his intention when he elaborated his plans to me, but as he spoke, I asked without much thinking, so how could I help you in any way? I think he was shocked by how direct and unpretentious I was, and he kindly replied, we could talk (:

That was a good lesson for me. For the past few days I have been struggling to initiate business conversation with my boss. I’m not sure why, maybe because he is too intimidating. The experience with Rick allowed me to see how easy it is to open my mouth. The best way to overcome any form of mental block is to do it (lesson #1).

Being an ex-professor of Tourism, he is extremely well-learnt about the city. He took us to downtown Seattle where the Public Market is. We also went to Queen Anne, Magnolia Hill, Mercer Island and Bellevue where the old and new rich stay. And I just found out that my activities haven’t really been carried out in Seattle. The place where is stayed is in Enumclaw, not within Seattle haha.

We spent the afternoon discussing the viability of opening a casino here. Only native Indians can open casinos here and Rick happened to sit on the board of advisors for the Association of Native Indians. So Rick explained to me the feasibility of the project and I had to translate everything to my boss. Rick was impressed at how I translated everything pretty fluently, and he commented that I was even better than the official translators my boss previously had. He praised me in front of my boss and said I did a well even though I didn’t come here to translate. But my boss immediately said, no I don’t think she did well. Accept harsh and unexpected criticism with grace and ponder hard over them (lesson #2).

Not everyday is exciting over here. I didn’t blog the past few days because the activities were quite dry. As he’s buying lots of houses here, I even had to help me carry his furniture on one day. Boss gave me a day off the next day because he had to oversee the renovations. I was tempted to take up his offer, but I thought about what I could do and who I could meet if I choose to stay in, and who I could possibly meet if I had just followed him and do boring stuff. I guess no matter how dry the day would be, I definitely get to go one new place, meet one new person and see something I’ve not seen before. And so I went, and I did not regret. Never ever be disheartened just because you thought there’s no big deal; opportunities come when you least expect them (lesson #3).

Also while fixing some furniture, another guy I pointed out that there was a mistake and the person in charge told us off. I was utterly pissed, but the other guy just graciously stepped back and laughed it off. I felt disappointed in myself that I was so unforgiving. I even gave the person-in-charge an evil stare. I need to learn to let things slide and understand that people have their bad days, just like I have mine (lesson #4).

Why now?

Because I hate to have achieved nothing in life. Because I need to support myself and my parents. Because I want to start a family by the age of 25, that’s 3 years time. Because I want to be able to give to the less fortunate. Because the longer I wait, the higher are the stakes.

Meeting with Eugene

Greatest takeaway: Always create value to others, not just people you are serving, but also people you are working. Once you ensure that there is sufficient value created, the others will take care of itself.

Why 30 is not the new 20

When I was in my 20s, I saw my very first psychotherapy client. I was a Ph.D. student in clinical psychology at Berkeley. She was a 26-year-old woman named Alex. Now Alex walked into her first session wearing jeans and a big slouchy top, and she dropped onto the couch in my office and kicked off her flats and told me she was there to talk about guy problems. Now when I heard this, I was so relieved. My classmate got an arsonist for her first client. (Laughter) And I got a twentysomething who wanted to talk about boys. This I thought I could handle.

But I didn’t handle it. With the funny stories that Alex would bring to session, it was easy for me just to nod my head while we kicked the can down the road. “Thirty’s the new 20,” Alex would say, and as far as I could tell, she was right. Work happened later, marriage happened later, kids happened later, even death happened later. Twentysomethings like Alex and I had nothing but time.

But before long, my supervisor pushed me to push Alex about her love life. I pushed back.

I said, “Sure, she’s dating down, she’s sleeping with a knucklehead, but it’s not like she’s going to marry the guy.”

And then my supervisor said, “Not yet, but she might marry the next one. Besides, the best time to work on Alex’s marriage is before she has one.”

That’s what psychologists call an “Aha!” moment. That was the moment I realized, 30 is not the new 20. Yes, people settle down later than they used to, but that didn’t make Alex’s 20s a developmental downtime. That made Alex’s 20s a developmental sweet spot, and we were sitting there blowing it. That was when I realized that this sort of benign neglect was a real problem, and it had real consequences, not just for Alex and her love life but for the careers and the families and the futures of twentysomethings everywhere.

There are 50 million twentysomethings in the United States right now. We’re talking about 15 percent of the population, or 100 percent if you consider that no one’s getting through adulthood without going through their 20s first.

Raise your hand if you’re in your 20s. I really want to see some twentysomethings here. Oh, yay! Y’all’s awesome. If you work with twentysomethings, you love a twentysomething,you’re losing sleep over twentysomethings, I want to see — Okay. Awesome, twentysomethings really matter.

So I specialize in twentysomethings because I believe that every single one of those 50 million twentysomethings deserves to know what psychologists, sociologists, neurologists and fertility specialists already know: that claiming your 20s is one of the simplest, yet most transformative, things you can do for work, for love, for your happiness, maybe even for the world.

This is not my opinion. These are the facts. We know that 80 percent of life’s most defining moments take place by age 35. That means that eight out of 10 of the decisions and experiences and “Aha!” moments that make your life what it is will have happened by your mid-30s. People who are over 40, don’t panic. This crowd is going to be fine, I think. We know that the first 10 years of a career has an exponential impact on how much money you’re going to earn. We know that more than half of Americans are married or are living with or dating their future partner by 30. We know that the brain caps off its second and last growth spurt in your 20s as it rewires itself for adulthood, which means that whatever it is you want to change about yourself, now is the time to change it. We know that personality changes more during your 20s than at any other time in life, and we know that female fertility peaks at age 28, and things get tricky after age 35. So your 20s are the time to educate yourself about your body and your options.

So when we think about child development, we all know that the first five years are a critical period for language and attachment in the brain. It’s a time when your ordinary, day-to-day life has an inordinate impact on who you will become. But what we hear less about is that there’s such a thing as adult development, and our 20s are that critical period of adult development.

But this isn’t what twentysomethings are hearing. Newspapers talk about the changing timetable of adulthood. Researchers call the 20s an extended adolescence. Journalists coin silly nicknames for twentysomethings like “twixters” and “kidults.” It’s true. As a culture, we have trivialized what is actually the defining decade of adulthood.

Leonard Bernstein said that to achieve great things, you need a plan and not quite enough time. Isn’t that true? So what do you think happens when you pat a twentysomething on the head and you say, “You have 10 extra years to start your life”? Nothing happens. You have robbed that person of his urgency and ambition, and absolutely nothing happens.

And then every day, smart, interesting twentysomethings like you or like your sons and daughters come into my office and say things like this: “I know my boyfriend’s no good for me, but this relationship doesn’t count. I’m just killing time.” Or they say, “Everybody says as long as I get started on a career by the time I’m 30, I’ll be fine.”

But then it starts to sound like this: “My 20s are almost over, and I have nothing to show for myself. I had a better résumé the day after I graduated from college.”

And then it starts to sound like this: “Dating in my 20s was like musical chairs. Everybody was running around and having fun, but then sometime around 30 it was like the music turned off and everybody started sitting down. I didn’t want to be the only one left standing up, so sometimes I think I married my husband because he was the closest chair to me at 30.”

Where are the twentysomethings here? Do not do that.

Okay, now that sounds a little flip, but make no mistake, the stakes are very high. When a lot has been pushed to your 30s, there is enormous thirtysomething pressure to jump-start a career, pick a city, partner up, and have two or three kids in a much shorter period of time.Many of these things are incompatible, and as research is just starting to show, simply harder and more stressful to do all at once in our 30s.

The post-millennial midlife crisis isn’t buying a red sports car. It’s realizing you can’t have that career you now want. It’s realizing you can’t have that child you now want, or you can’t give your child a sibling. Too many thirtysomethings and fortysomethings look at themselves, and at me, sitting across the room, and say about their 20s, “What was I doing? What was I thinking?”

I want to change what twentysomethings are doing and thinking.

Here’s a story about how that can go. It’s a story about a woman named Emma. At 25, Emma came to my office because she was, in her words, having an identity crisis. She said she thought she might like to work in art or entertainment, but she hadn’t decided yet, so she’d spent the last few years waiting tables instead. Because it was cheaper, she lived with a boyfriend who displayed his temper more than his ambition. And as hard as her 20s were, her early life had been even harder. She often cried in our sessions, but then would collect herself by saying, “You can’t pick your family, but you can pick your friends.”

Well one day, Emma comes in and she hangs her head in her lap, and she sobbed for most of the hour. She’d just bought a new address book, and she’d spent the morning filling in her many contacts, but then she’d been left staring at that empty blank that comes after the words “In case of emergency, please call … .” She was nearly hysterical when she looked at me and said, “Who’s going to be there for me if I get in a car wreck? Who’s going to take care of me if I have cancer?”

Now in that moment, it took everything I had not to say, “I will.” But what Emma needed wasn’t some therapist who really, really cared. Emma needed a better life, and I knew this was her chance. I had learned too much since I first worked with Alex to just sit there while Emma’s defining decade went parading by.

So over the next weeks and months, I told Emma three things that every twentysomething, male or female, deserves to hear.

First, I told Emma to forget about having an identity crisis and get some identity capital. By get identity capital, I mean do something that adds value to who you are. Do something that’s an investment in who you might want to be next. I didn’t know the future of Emma’s career, and no one knows the future of work, but I do know this: Identity capital begets identity capital. So now is the time for that cross-country job, that internship, that startup you want to try. I’m not discounting twentysomething exploration here, but I am discounting exploration that’s not supposed to count, which, by the way, is not exploration. That’s procrastination. I told Emma to explore work and make it count.

Second, I told Emma that the urban tribe is overrated. Best friends are great for giving rides to the airport, but twentysomethings who huddle together with like-minded peers limit who they know, what they know, how they think, how they speak, and where they work. That new piece of capital, that new person to date almost always comes from outside the inner circle. New things come from what are called our weak ties, our friends of friends of friends.So yes, half of twentysomethings are un- or under-employed. But half aren’t, and weak tiesare how you get yourself into that group. Half of new jobs are never posted, so reaching out to your neighbor’s boss is how you get that un-posted job. It’s not cheating. It’s the science of how information spreads.

Last but not least, Emma believed that you can’t pick your family, but you can pick your friends. Now this was true for her growing up, but as a twentysomething, soon Emma would pick her family when she partnered with someone and created a family of her own. I told Emma the time to start picking your family is now. Now you may be thinking that 30 is actually a better time to settle down than 20, or even 25, and I agree with you. But grabbing whoever you’re living with or sleeping with when everyone on Facebook starts walking down the aisle is not progress. The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one,and that means being as intentional with love as you are with work. Picking your family is about consciously choosing who and what you want rather than just making it work or killing time with whoever happens to be choosing you.

So what happened to Emma? Well, we went through that address book, and she found an old roommate’s cousin who worked at an art museum in another state. That weak tie helped her get a job there. That job offer gave her the reason to leave that live-in boyfriend. Now, five years later, she’s a special events planner for museums. She’s married to a man she mindfully chose. She loves her new career, she loves her new family, and she sent me a card that said, “Now the emergency contact blanks don’t seem big enough.”

Now Emma’s story made that sound easy, but that’s what I love about working with twentysomethings. They are so easy to help. Twentysomethings are like airplanes just leaving LAX, bound for somewhere west. Right after takeoff, a slight change in course is the difference between landing in Alaska or Fiji. Likewise, at 21 or 25 or even 29, one good conversation, one good break, one good TED Talk, can have an enormous effect across years and even generations to come.

So here’s an idea worth spreading to every twentysomething you know. It’s as simple as what I learned to say to Alex. It’s what I now have the privilege of saying to twentysomethings like Emma every single day: Thirty is not the new 20, so claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family. Don’t be defined by what you didn’t know or didn’t do. You’re deciding your life right now. Thank you.(Applause)

The power of mornings: Why successful entrepreneurs get up early

When running a business, it may seem like there are never enough hours in the day. Tapping into the power of mornings, a time of day when there are less demands, might be the key to increasing your productivity.

For 15 years, Starbucks President Michelle Gaas has set her alarm for 4:30 a.m. to go running. Gretchen Ruben, popular author of The Happiness Project (Harper Perennial, 2011) wakes up at 6 a.m. and works for an hour before her family rises. Time-management expert Laura Vanderkam highlights what makes mornings special and how we can use them more efficiently in her book What The Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast (Portfolio Trade, 2013). Here are a few benefits to getting out of bed earlier.

You are less likely to get distracted in the morning. An entrepreneur’s day fills up fast. If you wait until the afternoon or evening to do something meaningful for yourself such as exercising or reading, you’re likely to push it off the to-do list altogether. “There are going to be reasons why you can’t tackle a personal priority at 4 p.m. — things have a lot less likelihood of coming up at 6 a.m.,” says Vanderkam.

You have more willpower early in the day. Even if you aren’t a morning person, you may have more willpower in the early hours than later in the day. “Willpower is like a muscle [that] becomes fatigued with over-use,” says Vanderkam. During the course of the day as you’re dealing with difficult people, making decisions and battling traffic, you use up your willpower, leaving you feeling depleted toward the end of the day.

Mornings give you the opportunity to set a positive tone for the day. If you’ve ever slept in past your alarm clock or forgotten your kids’ lunches on the counter, you know that starting off the day with a failure can bring down your mood and affect your productivity at work. Vanderkam says waking up earlier allows you to start the day with a victory and set the tone for a happier and more productive day.

If the thought of waking up at sunrise makes you cringe, Vanderkam recommends these four steps to transform even a habitual night owl into a morning person.

1. Keep a time journal. Vanderkam says one of the reasons people say they don’t like mornings is that they stay up too late. She recommends keeping a time journal for a week to show where you may be using your time inefficiently. Vanderkam finds when many self-professed night owls look at their time journals, they often find they aren’t spending their evening hours productively or doing anything particularly enjoyable.

2. Imagine your perfect morning. Imagine what you would do if you had an extra hour in the day. Would you exercise? Read the newspaper rather than simply skimming the headlines? “[Getting up earlier] isn’t about punishing yourself. You will not get out of bed if you don’t have a good reason to do it,” says Vanderkam.

3. Plan your morning. Once you have decided what you want to do with your extra time, plan how to execute it, and set as much up as possible the night before. For example, if you want to exercise in the morning, lay out your clothes the night before, or gather the ingredients for your breakfast.

4. Build the habit slowly. Vanderkam says you will likely hit the snooze button and sleep in if you try to switch your habits drastically. So instead of setting your alarm for 5 a.m. when you normally get up at 7: 30 a.m. set the alarm for 10 minutes earlier each day. To make sure you don’t lose sleep, go to bed 10 minutes earlier each night. If you have trouble hitting the sack on time, set a bedtime alarm.

 

http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/226910